I have long been obsessed with the concept of self-help mainly because of a profound sense of unhappiness I experienced when I looked back over the last ten years of my life. Fortified by my reading of several self-help books, I spent the majority of the decade spurring myself on, shouting “Carpe diem” through gritted teeth yet persistently feeling like I had never got anywhere.
Meeting Peter Crone has literally changed my life. Our first meeting began cautiously with him asking me to spend some time explaining why I had come to him. After only about 15-20 minutes, he began to outline how I was coming across to him. I was immediately stunned by his perception and instant ability to grasp the beliefs I had allowed to become fundamental in governing my life. Prime among these was a “little boy” syndrome I had massively paid into, under whose influence, I had allowed myself to believe that I was incapable of developing a responsible adult life. I was deeply upset by this, purely because I found myself face to face with my most raw emotions and had to confront the negativity I had (unconsciously) been engaged in for such a long while.
What was great about Peter was that at such an emotional juncture, he was acutely sensitive in not leaving me there. Having made me confront my childish behaviour, he then advocated to me at length how my previous behaviour was in fact a massive lie. I had constantly been lying to myself as to my true capabilities because I had grown hugely dependent on the cocoon of self-protection I had built around myself; an environment of childish innocence offering the warmth of childhood without the need to ever grow up. Of course there was in fact no warmth at all! Together we discussed how this cage was actually incredibly stifling and completely unnecessary.
Peter does not have a text to preach, or a philosophy to learn. He has one very simple message that everyone is capable of understanding. We are all full of love, lightness and joy. To those who might worry that this sounds vaguely evangelical, don’t worry, it is not; quite the contrary ... it is in fact practical common sense. Any beliefs or habits that we construct on top of these inherent qualities consists merely of ways we try to protect ourselves. But none of those ways amount to a reality, but rather are merely our own visual filters to the world. Once one has grasped this, I assure you your life will never be the same.
For me, meeting Peter unlocked the whole of my life. I had spent my entire time putting on a little boy act. As soon as I realized this, I immediately saw how exhausting my life was! My prime love in life is the theatre and I remember commenting to Peter how I never understood how actors could do the same performance over and over, sometimes even twice a day. With my awakening I suddenly felt like I had been performing the same rigorous play, morning, matinee and evening for the last 31 years! The performance schedule had been utterly grueling and what was worse, the performance was always the same; not some comedy with lightness of touch but some serious tragedy with an eternally melancholic ending. The cumulative effect was one of utter fatigue and lack of joy. What a hideously boring show I had been in!!
I have kept in contact with Peter since and continue to see dramatic changes in my life. I now feel like I am capable of great things because I am taking responsibility. To put it in graphic terms, instead of just dreaming and shouting “Carpe diem”, I have finally got off up my ass and am taking constant action towards my goals. I know I won’t achieve them tomorrow or even next year (or maybe never) but it doesn't matter, my happiness is here NOW. Nonetheless for fun and creativity I am for the first time 100% committed to my life and my goals and know that by persistently chipping away, rather than a couple of desperate angry blows, I can crumble even the biggest of boulders.
Perhaps you feel that I haven’t given you enough specific details as to who exactly this man is, or what he did for me. That is because Peter is not a preacher. There is no specific text that he will give you as to how to lead your life, and I have no idea what your conversation with him will entail exactly. The only answer is that there are no answers. And once you fully grasp this, it is incredibly powerful.
However, what I do know is that he will listen to you like no one has ever done before and help you more that anyone you have ever met to gain complete self-knowledge. You will be the one making the changes and a meeting with him will leave you so much more capable of effecting those changes than anyone claiming to have all the answers. His effect on me has been profound beyond words. Peter Crone will change your life.
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